Confessions of a third year student...

These days, my life seems to resemble a pair of scales: balancing a social life and sanity with final year university work and insanity.

My lack of blog posts and ideas have been a result of this. I knew this was coming and I tried to prepare myself for the stress and copious amounts of work that would come my way.

I won't sugar coat it, final year is hard, it's meant to be. 

As we approach the end of April, the deadline for my thesis is just around the corner. I've spent pretty much every day since January in a laboratory, desperately trying to gather results to give me something to write about.

This is the life of a final year biomedical science student. It's not fun, but at the same time I am weirdly enjoying it. For those who choose to study a scientific course, then it is most likely that you will end up doing a research project. Not only do I think it is harder than a dissertation, I also think it is waay more stressful but at the same time way more rewarding.

Having to design, plan and conduct a research project by yourself is hard and without proper training, it means you have to use your own initiative on a daily basis to make sure you actually know what you are doing. There were times when I felt like crying in the lab because I had no idea what I was doing and none of my experiments were working. This is where patience comes in handy.

I've learnt so much in a matter of months, not just to do with my course but to do with myself. I definitely do not want to go into research as a future career, and I have also realised that the best way to complete something is to just sit down and get on with it.

I suppose the one thing that keeps me going is that it'll all be over in a couple of months. It's actually scary how quickly time goes when you are so preoccupied with various assignments and revision.

I think it's this point in a degree where you have to make sure you have chosen the right course and that you enjoy it. Otherwise, it will be very difficult to find the motivation to do anything.

Gone are the days of partying almost every night. In fact, after a days work I feel mentally exhausted and the last thing I want to do is get glammed up for a night partying into the early hours.

The coping mechanism's I have acquired are getting enough sleep, which is incredibly important and really effects your performance. I also try and go to the gym a few times a week, as well as going to local dance classes as this fulfils my other passions. It makes for a really good break and keeps me sane.
The most important one however is to START EARLY! I seriously cannot emphasise this enough, the earlier you start, the less stress and panic there will be towards the end. If you find yourself with spare time, make a head start. You will thank yourself for it later.

I can't say I have changed my diet to enrich me with brain boosting omega-3 or anything, I simply indulge in chocolate most of the time to satisfy that sweet craving and as a reward for all those revision notes I made. And there is nothing wrong with that. I also have become a procrastibaker, as you can see from the pictures below!

Blueberry Cake

Strawberry fairy cakes

Easter egg chocolate cakes

So I guess this post is like a diary entry and when it is all over I can read over it and take comfort in the fact that it's all over.

How To Deal With Rejection

 Rejection, isn't it the worst feeling in the world?!

It makes you feel like you aren't good enough or makes you question why someone didn't like you.

This post has come about because today I received not one but two rejections in the space of an hour, and it occurred to me that at some point in everyone's life, they have been rejected, probably multiple times.

Whether its from a job, your crush, friends, family or even from your pets, it has the ability to crush your dreams in a matter of seconds.

I've personally experienced rejection from a lot of things like jobs, universities, friends and boys! It sucks!

The idea I will probably face even more rejection in the future scares me a little! So this is why we must learn to accept rejection, develop a (extra) thick skin and use it to improve ourselves.

If it's one thing that most successful people have in common, its that they have been rejected many times before they became successful. Take JK Rowling, who got rejected from multiple publishers when she sent them Harry Potter. But all it took was one acceptation to turn her into a multimillionaire who is the author of one of the most successful book series in the world!

Rejection is necessary for us to re-evaluate ourselves and improve, so that next time, rejection doesn't take place.

Yes other people are luckier and face very little rejection, but I truly believe that they cannot be the best version of themselves because they haven't had the chance to experience a situation where you have to critically analyse yourself. People that don't deal with a lot of rejection are disadvantaged, as they cannot take this on board and learn to rethink in situations, or come up with different solutions to one problem.

Having this skill means that you can identify the areas of your life that need improving, and do something about it to make it better. 

If you find it hard to deal with rejection, just remember that everyone is different and this means that you may not be suited to a particular person, career or relationship. But having this variety of personalities means that there will be plenty of other options. We are fortunate to live in a society where there are so many opportunities around us so being rejected from one thing allows us to explore other pathways and open our minds.

I was lucky with the rejections I received today because they made me realise that I didn't really want those jobs in the first place, and therefore it made my career decision even clearer.

Take the rejection onboard, use it to figure out what possibly went wrong, then try and improve on this. If that fails, try something else!

I will leave this post with a quote from one of my favourite movies. This film is not very popular or heard of and may sound silly, but I used to watch it many times as a child and I'm grateful that this quote was instilled in my brain!

 'You try. You fail. You try. You fail. But the only true failure is when you stop trying.' Madame Leota, The Haunted Mansion, Disney 2003.

This quote then follows, which pretty much sums up how you should deal with rejection the next time you receive it.

'Jim: What do you want me to do? Huh? 

Madame Leota: Try again. '